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Even before I finished this quiz, I knew I would be:




You are the original "independent woman", refusing to depend on anyone else to get where you are today. You don't care what other people think about you, and are never afraid to share your opinions with the world on just about any topic or situation. You're cunning, witty, and most of the time a gem to be around, a real class act if you will. Naturally athletic you love playing sports, though your true love is drama. Having won the most Academy Awards (4) of any woman in Hollywood history, it's also no secret that you're admired and regarded as one of, if not THE, most talented woman in film.

Try the quiz out here.

Justice and law prevails in Iowa

My home state. I always believe there are sensible people there. They are pleasant to their neighbors and fellow citizens. They also have a good sense of justice, separating government from private concerns, and believing in the democratic process. I know some people are not too happy with what just happened there today, but the Supreme Court Justices worded it exactly how I feel.

Supreme Court Justice Mark Cady, who wrote the unanimous decision, at one point invoked the court’s first-ever decision, in 1839, which struck down slavery laws 17 years before the U.S. Supreme Court upheld the right of a slave owner to treat a person as property.

Iowa’s gay marriage ban “is unconstitutional, because the county has been unable to identify a constitutionally adequate justification for excluding plaintiffs from the institution of civil marriage,” Cady wrote in the 69-page opinion that seemed to dismiss the concept of civil unions as an option for gay couples.

“A new distinction based on sexual orientation would be equally suspect and difficult to square with the fundamental principles of equal protection embodied in our constitution,” Cady wrote.

The ruling also addressed what it called the “religious undercurrent propelling the same-sex marriage debate,” and said judges must remain outside the fray.

Some Iowa religions are strongly opposed to same-sex marriages, the justices noted, while some support the notion.

“Our constitution does not permit any branch of government to resolve these types of religious debates and entrusts to courts the task of ensuring that government avoids them,” the opinion says.

The ruling explicitly does not affect “the freedom of a religious organization to define marriage it solemnizes as unions between a man and a woman,” the justices stressed.

You can see the original article at the Des Moines Register. Italicized emphasis is mine.

Civil marriage, the partnership of two people who have decided to create a household together and share in economic as well as emotional and spiritual needs together, is not the same in my opinion as the religious marriage that is sanctioned by many different types of religions. Europe has had couples perform both ceremonies, such as the law in Luxembourg. A religious ceremony cannot happen until the civil ceremony is performed. A religious ceremony does not have to happen either, but the union is a legal state under the law of Luxembourg.

If there's such an uproar about wording, then all of us who got a piece of paper from the government declaring that we were a couple, should have those unions called civil unions, no matter who we are. Then, those churches that want to perform "marriage" ceremonies for their select group of people may. It's all semantics though. What is handled by the government should not be informed upon by religion. Couples recognized as such by the state should not be discriminated against for sex, race, religion, creed or likewise. At one point in time, a black person could not marry a white person. We have deemed that illegal and the Iowa State Supreme Court has also found discriminating against people because they both happen to be men or both women is just as illegal. It makes sense to me.

Once again, the world seems to be getting closer to what I believe it is in my head.

Annnnddd.... three more bites it is!

Aliceson over at Feet off the Table! got me started on this game. It's that game of chicken you play with your children when you're at the dinner table. She's lucky in that her children are adventurous. We are unlucky in that ours are not. And it changes daily.

Somewhere between 2 and 3 years of age this change started happening. And it didn't happen solely with one or the other kid, this change happened at nearly the same time in their lives. The good news is that they seem to eventually start to move out of it again. My lovely Wild Child #2 would gobble down peas at 1 1/2 and 2 years, while her 4 and 5 year old brother would literally gag, and, in fact, one time he actually threw it back up, he gagged on them so hard! Yes, ladies and gentlemen, our eldest threw up food because he didn't like it and didn't want to eat it. So, do you feel bad for the puking or angry at his stubbornness? I don't know, I don't have the answer.

Thankfully, this happened only once.

Then, after many years of enjoying the peas (well, okay it was like 2 1/2, but many at that point in her short life), WC#2 decides she doesn't like them. What? You used to like them. What's wrong with them now? At that point, both were maybe eating carrots (there was a whole cooked vs. uncooked, and neither liked the same state at the same time), corn, and pasta sauce (that counts as a veggie, right?).

So, we struggled for a year with very few vegetables. Suddenly, WC#2 decides that the tops of broccoli are alright. Hunh? Where did that come from? Mind you, she still only eats the tops, and none of the stems, but heck, something green is going into her body. Don't even go near them with anything leafy. That is not going anywhere.

They will eat apples, as long as they are peeled and not brown, they will eat bananas, brown point still holds true, strawberries are both a favorite and raspberries. Now, if they have an aversion to texture more than taste (I think this is WC#1's problem with peas), why do they eat berries full of seeds? I do not get that.

And WC#2 now eats peas again, like they're going out of style. WC#1 even ate peas last night without gagging or fighting. He eats our spicy Indian chicken. Decided it would try it one night, loved it, it was a hit. What?

Still, my children can be a pain. He will only eat melted cheese, a la pizza or mac and cheese, but not grilled cheese or solid cheese. She will eat both of those, and solid cheese, but not grilled cheese. Hunh? He will eat peanut butter, but no jelly, not a drop, ever nor never near that peanut butter sandwich. He won't eat sandwich meats, like ham, turkey or beef.

She won't eat peanut butter, don't even come near her with that, but jelly is like it's going out of style. She also eats ham, but no other sandwich meat. He doesn't touch pork, except maybe sausage, but she eats all things pork: bacon, sausage, ham in all forms, pork chops, but not ham balls. She eats mandarin oranges, he won't touch it.

Oh, and the applesauce we have been eating for 4 years, suddenly, one day they both said they didn't like it. I could have killed them both. Tonight, it was all fine with the same apple sauce. Grr...

They both eat hamburgers, chips, corn (on and off the cob, but not grandma's frozen version), mac and cheese, pizza, chicken nuggets, tacos (but only at home, she won't touch school taco meat), spaghetti (again only at home, she dreads the school's spaghetti). Young Mr. WC#1 eats many more meals at school than he used to, so I am holding out hope that my little WC#2 will mature and eat more stuff.

We conjole, we beg, we negotiate, we yell, we shame. It doesn't do a lick of good. We once tried the dessert bribe. But then I read somewhere that holding dessert as a reward for eating healthy (read icky) food, made the kids think the food for dinner was icky and not fun. It suggested picking a few nights a week for dessert and having dessert whether they ate their dinner or not. That actually seems to be going well. Dessert nights at our house are Sunday, Wednesday and Friday.

Anyone care to join us?

Soooo, I am passing this picky food meme on to Heather at 2 Brits, 2 Yanks, and 2 dogs. Your turn, Heather. Let's Play 3 More Bites!

What is midwestern?

I've been struggling with this question. Do you live in a midwestern state? Do you consider it midwestern? What is the Midwest or Midwestern?

Let's see if we can figure this out together.

I've said before, I've grown up in Iowa. I would consider myself VERY midwestern. I believe Iowa is probably as midwestern as they come. But I guess that's my belief.

What makes Midwestern? Is it a lifestyle? Is it the food you eat? How about the location? How far east or west does the midwest reach? Is it a capital M or a lower case m?

Wikipedia has some interesting points: the region holds both the geographic and population centers of the contiguous United States, the states run as far east as Ohio and as far west as Nebraska and Kansas, since the book Middletown appeared in the 1920s, the region has been consider a barometer of what is "typical" for the nation.

The Ohio, the Mississippi, and the Missouri feature large in these states.

I think more than geography there is a feeling. I cannot imagine moving outside of the midwest. I feel I wouldn't understand the people or where they were coming from, because I would feel they wouldn't have the same common background. Not consciously, but it would be at the back of my head.

I hear in places like ski resorts in Colorado they only hire Midwesterners because they know they are reliable and hard workers. I think I could vouch for that. We have variations on the theme, but I'm betting most people I grew up with are hard workers.

There's the Midwestern food, some of the older stuff that we recognize, like Jello salads. Maybe that's not entirely midwestern. We have interesting ethnic variations that change from state to state, or even within the state. Lutefisk from the Minnesotan Norwegians, fish fry in Wisconsin (fish boil in Door County), Iowa sweet corn and the Butter Cow, Kansas City barbeque, Michigan Mackinac Island fudge (oh, yum!), Cincinnati chili, German kuchens and sauerbraten everywhere.

There's the immigrants that came here and made us who and what we are, Yankees from the northeastern United States, German, Irish, Dutch, Scandinavians in our northern reaches, a smattering of English, Polish, Czech and others.

We are polite, very friendly, maybe a little prudish, maybe not. A little self-deprecating, perhaps. We have a genuine concern for neighbors and friends. Who doesn't? But I think people would recognize a Midwesterner for those qualities. Religious faith may be stronger in our areas. We might be considered stubborn, stuck in our ways, maybe a bit backwards. Maybe a little less formal, not quite as concerned about class. Genuine and honest. We love our families. Family life and holidays are important. So is bringing outsiders into a family-like circle. So everyone has someone to turn to.

I cannot imagine living anywhere that is not in the Midwest. I enjoy visiting Arizona, looking forward to Hawaii, enjoy warm weather in other places. New York is exciting, D.C. is patriotic feeling, but I feel at home in the states that are near the Great Lakes and the Mississippi. I would miss the season's changes. Sure shoveling snow is hard (especially in late March, augh), but the smell of spring in the wet earth, or the crisp coolness of the breeze as you crunch through vivid blazing autumn colors. Looking forward to swimming in the pool, or making snowmen. We get all seasons, shapes and sizes.

The only place that might draw me from the Midwest would be England. But that is a story for another day.

I'm sorry, Boomers, I've got to say it

This is something that I've been thinking about lately. Baby Boomers, that large generation of people, who overshadow those in Generation X that follow them, now, due to that financial crisis, are putting off leaving work. Which means the Gen Xers won't get their chance to move up. Until they're 60. So it seems.

And Mr. Drezner puts it very well on Marketplace on NPR tonight:

"For decades, Gen X-ers like myself have had to hear the standard declarations about the uniqueness of the baby boomers. Maybe they were not the Greatest Generation, but they were the ones who glorified the whole idea of generational identity. For decades, Gen X-ers have had to hear complaints about our political apathy, our popular culture, and our musical tastes.

We have suffered many of these critiques without complaint. Why? Because so many of us worked for so many of them. They were the bosses of the business world. And they were supposed to be retiring very soon, but the recession has changed all that."

Don't get me wrong, some of my very favorite people are Boomers and don't necessarily fit the "boomer" type of personality (hi, Mom). But still, I feel very stuck in the middle. Gen Y is bigger than the Xers, too, and sometimes I feel like we're going to just get passed by. What's crucial to us will be lost in the needs of Boomers and the needs of the Gen Yers, because they are larger groups and have more voices.

Maybe that's why we seem like we drop out and don't participate, why we have apathy. There aren't enough of us to make much of a difference, so why try so hard? Betcha we don't elect a president born in the 70s. I don't know, we'll see.

I wonder if maybe that's why I feel so family focused. If I'm going to make a difference, it will be through my children. I've heard that Gen Xers don't live to work, we work to live. Maybe we'll just float around and just make enough money to enjoy our family life together. So we may seem laid back, but we're not going to have heart attacks, nor miss out on our children's lives.*

*General disclaimer that I do not believe that all Baby Boomers are workaholics. This is only a generalization I am making, and I do know generalizations never do tell the whole story.

I'm not sure I get Twitter

I have a couple of friends who Twitter, but I don't know how, who or what.

I see and hear comments about Twittering on Good Morning America, but I have no clue how one would do that.

I see other blogs that have Twitter updates. How does this differ from Facebook updates? Is it useful on a blog?

So, I just don't get what the deal is. But I feel like maybe I should know. Someone get me a link to a basic explanation.

I figured out how to contribute to Wikipedia, wander around on Facebook, maintain a silly ol' blog, and know how to receive text on my cell (I don't text from my cell, cause I'm cheap like that). Somehow, perhaps I'm missing something with the Twitter.

Or perhaps it's another evil time sucking thing that really has no value whatsoever.

If someone has a clue, let me know.

And yes, I'll admit, 40 is not that far away and I am not hip.

100 signs of spring

100 signs of spring for my 100th post

1. Robins appear
2. Sandhill cranes wing their way north
3. Can hear sandhill cranes at work
4. Tulips
5. Lilacs
6. Green grass
7. March winds
8. April showers
9. May flowers
10. Snow is gone
11. River floods
12. Kids playing outside (finally!)
13. Soccer
14. Warm weather
15. Short sleeve shirts
16. Wearing shorts
17. Mud
18. Muddy boots
19. Muddy clothes
20. Muddy kids
21. Dirt tracked through the whole house
22. Everybody and their dog walking
23. Skinned knees
24. Skinned elbows
25. Skinned noses (just happened today)
26. Spring jackets
27. Leather coat
28. Umbrellas
29. Rain coats
30. Sidewalk chalk
31. Bubbles
32. St. Patrick's Day
33. Easter not far behind.
34. Spring break
35. More salads and wraps
36. Strawberries are cheaper
37. Asparagus is in season.
38. Corned beef and cabbage
39. Downpours
40. Daffodils
41. Dirty windows
42. Green buds on the trees
43. Bike rides
44. Bike helmets
45. Sandbox toys
46. Folding chairs
47. Grilling hamburgers and brats
48. Hamburger buns
49. Hotdog buns (brat buns are too big even for brats)
50. Mustards of every flavor
51. Soccer balls
52. Basketballs
53. Bouncy balls
54. Rhythmic sound of bouncing balls on driveway
55. Wagon rides
56. Visits to the park
57. Fishing off the bridges
58. Using the river walk
59. Walking to the library
60. Dining outside
61. Outdoor bar opens
62. Enjoying the sunset from outside
63. Birds chirping outside early in the morning
64. Not freezing when you get in the shower
65. Not freezing when you get out of the shower
66. Daylight savings time (ick)
67. Taxes are due
68. Mowing the lawn
69. Planting grass seed
70. Landscaping needs care
71. Dividing hostas
72. Pick up pool pass
73. Joggers out in force
74. Middle school kids hanging around town in groups
75. Kids and Mr. Wild wear baseball caps
76. Put away winter wear
77. Reruns on TV
78. Garden centers sprout in local stores
79. Left over winter sleds fill up with water
80. Climbing up on back yard play equipment
81. Swinging
82. Sliding
83. Running with abandon
84. Neighbors stay outside to chat
85. Kids run all over neighborhood
86. Ants in our kitchen
87. Elder bugs in our bedroom
88. Asian beetles in our bathroom
89. Stink bugs in my work office
90. Stinky smell of beetles in vacuum after you suck them up
91. Bare feet on the floor
92. Woodworking in the garage
93. Dirty cars
94. Cleaning out the cars
95. Cleaning out the garage
96. Garage sales
97. Quiet in the house (kids are outside)
98. Walking to our favorite local ice cream joint
99. Our local ice cream joint opens and the lines go out to the street.

And the 100th sign of spring is.....

100. Mr. Wild shaves off his goatee!!!!